My son is very poor eater. This worries me to no end and there is a lot of conflict in the house because of this. Doctor too has advised him to eat. He is 7. His school teachers also say he doesn't have stamina for sports. My husband and even I feel that I harass him about food a lot and in defiance he doesn't eat. My question is when will he start eating a healthy diet and gain weight as he is grossly underweight. Doc says he needs to put on.
You are absolutely right. Your son is not eating in defiance to your wishes. If you just leave him be, he will eventually begin eating on his own. Right now it has become a battle of wills between him and you and it is affecting his health. You need to back off and let him feed himself as much as he wants and when he wants. The more you try to force him the worse it will become for both of you. Just leave him alone. Serve the meal on the dining table and let him eat as much as he wants. Initially he may not eat much but eventually he will realize that you are not going to push him anymore and he will begin eating as much as he requires.